Love Hurts - But It Will Liberate You

While not all schools of feminism endorse polyamory, its more radical branches have undoubtedly influenced the rise of non-monogamous ideologies. In this context, polyamory is often presented as a liberating path for women—yet it simultaneously functions as a tool to deconstruct masculinity and subordinate it to feminine authority. Today, polyamory and ENM are widely practiced within feminist, postmodern, and progressive circles—circles which claim to dismantle patriarchy while often promoting selective, ideologically driven moral structures.

There is a recurring debate over whether men or women are “more monogamous,” a question that is in itself a distraction. The real issue lies in how the “polyamory-industrial complex” manipulates both genders through ideological conditioning. Regardless of who is biologically more inclined toward monogamy, the data and research around the topic are deeply flawed—conducted and financed by biased institutions with postmodern epistemologies. These studies seldom interrogate the deeper ideological mechanisms at play: cultural brainwashing, internalized misandry, and spiritual disorientation.

Whether promoting polyamory as "enlightenment" or shaming male resistance to open relationships as “regressive,” both tactics stem from the same hegemonic machine. Men who advocate polyamory are often victims of social reprogramming, mistaking self-subjugation for transcendence. Meanwhile, women are encouraged to see non-monogamy as a path to personal and sexual liberation—an illusion that turns female promiscuity into a moral imperative.

This dual-track deception is a textbook method of ideological control: propagate two seemingly contradictory narratives—female liberation through polyamory, and male redemption through submission to it—under a unified umbrella of "progressive enlightenment." This framework is nothing but a secularized revival of medieval courtly love: a sublimated theology of female moral superiority masked as romantic idealism. In its modern form, it has become darker, institutionalized, and systematized. It still holds, however, the ancient tenet: “Love hurts, but it liberates you.”

From the Great Goddess to the Black Madonna: Feminism’s Esoteric Roots

Feminism is typically framed as a product of 19th–20th century secular political theory, emerging from leftist, Marxist, or liberal traditions. However, its foundational myths run much deeper. The true roots of feminism are esoteric and gnostic, not merely socialist. To fully understand the destructive cultural role modern feminism plays, we must investigate its mythic, mystical, and religious underpinnings—especially those hidden behind centuries of symbolic transformation and ideological sublimation.

The feminist mythos—whether expressed through the trope of the "independent woman," the "divine feminine," or the "liberated sexual being"—can be traced back to ancient cults and religious movements. These include the Gnostic worship of Sophia, the Cathar heresy, Zoroastrian dualism, the Indian-Sufi mystic traditions, and the cult of the Black Madonna. In particular, the Cathar and Troubadour movements of southern France formed a matrix of romantic-mystical worship of the feminine that later morphed into early feminist ideologies.

Troubadours, often linked to the Cathars, promoted a quasi-religious vision of female divinity and moral superiority. Their songs, often dedicated to married noblewomen, romanticized female infidelity and male suffering as spiritually redemptive. The cult of courtly love, birthed in Languedoc and Aquitaine under figures like Queen Eleanor, embodied a theology of woman as redeemer, goddess, and sovereign over man’s desire and suffering.

At its core, this belief system venerated the feminine as a non-dual concept, wife and seductress light and dark, mother and lover, life and chaos—symbolising both aspects and unified in the figure of the Black Madonna or Black Sophia. This archetype, worshipped in secret grottoes and shrines, represented wisdom, transformation, and pain: an ancient androgynous path of “liberation” through suffering.

The Hidden Feminine Religion: Heresy and Subversion

The Cathar-Troubadour axis can be seen as a counter-culture that attacked the social order of the Middle Ages from two directions: Cathars subverted the Church (the “Church of Amor” against “Roma”), while Troubadours undermined feudal patriarchy by idealizing a woman-centered ethic. Their world rejected marriage, ridiculed class distinctions, and celebrated feminine divinity.

This legacy lives on in feminist non-monogamy: a modern heresy disguised as liberation. Polyamory is not simply a relationship style; it is the ritualized revival of an ancient myth. It tells men to suffer for love and tells women to rule through their erotic and spiritual superiority. Feminist-inflected ENM and polyamory have re-packaged this myth for a modern audience, replacing churches with academia and sacred shrines with podcasts, sex-positive forums, and open-relationship manifestos.

The cultic dimensions remain unchanged: submission to the feminine principle is exalted as a path to enlightenment. Love hurts—but it will liberate you.

Conclusion: The Weaponization of Love

What we face is not simply a cultural shift in how relationships are conducted. It is an ideological and spiritual revolution rooted in ancient heresies. The polyamory-industrial complex, propped up by feminism, academia, and pop-psychology, is weaponizing love to divide the sexes and dissolve traditional masculinity. It is a project of subversion disguised as progress.

This movement borrows from ancient mystic traditions while presenting itself as modern and scientific. But it is neither. It is, in essence, a rebranded cultic path of collective suffering. And until we recognize its roots and understand its symbolism, we will remain blind to the psychological, cultural, and spiritual damage it continues to inflict.